"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;"
Eph 5:25

Saturday, April 13, 2013

Weekly Top Ten

 Saturdays at The Genuine Husband I post a weekly "top ten" list of the best blog posts for husbands and wives. Some weeks my picks will be more husband-oriented and sometimes more for wives.


Sometimes it will cover topics many churches are afraid to talk about.

Always it will be a collection of posts from solid, Bible-based marriage blogs covering topics that are important in God's holy covenant of marriage.


So, without further ado, here are this week's top ten (numbered only for convenience.  Happy reading!



1. Marriage Life
MT Project: I Don't Have To Be Right (Outloud) - Sometimes it's best to keep your mouth shut.

2. A Grown Up Marriage
Personal Callings and Personal Convictions - My calling is not your calling and my convictions are not your convictions.

3. Always Learning
Cultivating A Quiet And Gentle Spirit - Ladies, do you make it your ambition to lead a quiet life?

4. The Romantic Vineyard
Don't Ditch Your Marriage - Your marriage might be in a ditch and you don't know it.

5, Do Not Disturb
Connectivity And Sex - 4 tips to help you stay connected.

6. Elevate Your Marriage
Elevate Your Marriage Through Intimate Conversations (Part 1) - The couple that prays together ....

7. The Alabaster Jar
My Husband Wants Me To Dress Like A Porn Star - A letter from a wife and Jolene's video answer

8. Peaceful Wife's Blog
Some Questions for the Men About Emotions - Men, participate in this important series by answering some questions about emotions.  Be sure to answer honestly!

9. Husbands, Love Your Wives
Quote of the Day: Ann Landers - "If you marry a man who cheats on his wife, you'll be married to a man who cheats on his wife."


10. Marriage Gems
What You Focus On Will Appear Larger - Do little things take your focus away from the most important things in your marriage?

Saturday, April 6, 2013

Weekly Top Ten


Before I proceed with this week's top ten marriage blogs, I must address an issue that has recently occurred in the comments. 

First, let me say that I welcome comments, both positive and negative, and I am more than willing to engage in a genuine discussion of issues.

However, recently there have been some anonymous comments from a person whose goal, it seems, is to pick a fight, plain and simple.

I am not, nor do I pretend to be, a theologian of any kind.  I am human and I blog about what the Lord places on my heart. 

Am I always correct?  No.  Will my research be incomplete?  Yes. 

So, I welcome comments.

However, there is a distinct difference between a legitimate comment and bullying.  If your goal is to attack me personally by taking apart each of my posts line by line, just to prove that you're right and I'm wrong without ever agreeing to disagree, then I will no longer publish your comments. 

Therefore, comments to GenuineHusband will now be moderated prior to publication.

Now, on to this week's Top Ten!


Saturdays at The Genuine Husband I post a weekly "top ten" list of the best blog posts for husbands and wives. Some weeks my picks will be more husband-oriented and sometimes more for wives.


Sometimes it will cover topics many churches are afraid to talk about.

Always it will be a collection of posts from solid, Bible-based marriage blogs covering topics that are important in God's holy covenant of marriage.


So, without further ado, here are this week's top ten (numbered only for convenience.  Happy reading!

1. Do Not Disturb
Marriage Challenge: Unexpected Twists    - Are there pleasant little twists you could add to your spouse's day to bless him/her?

2. Elevate Your Marriage
Why You Need "Your" Spouse - Our spouses meet more than physical needs.

3. Hot, Holy, and Humorous
Just Because He Stopped Asking Doesn't Mean He Stopped Wanting  - The title says it all.

4. Manna for Marriage
Want A Husband Who Leads? - Here are 7 things a wife can do.

5. Marriage Life
Marriage Truth Project: My Marriage is My Ministry - Do you treat your marriage like a ministry?  You should.

6. My Beloved Is Mine
Family Time - These folks really know what family time is all about!

7. One Extraordinary Marriage
Romance Your Spouse With These Sexy Text Messages  - A nice collection of text message ideas to add spark to your marriage.

8. Delightful
The Magic of Kissing - A really cool card trick.

9. The Generous Husband
Change Your Focus, Change Your Marriage - Focus on the good!

10. To Love, Honor, and Vacuum
Before You Give That "Helpful Suggestion" - Check Yourself - 3 questions to ask yourself before you give advice.

My Body Is A Temple

19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)

I'm sorry to say that I have not treated my body this way.  Over the past 5 or so years I have become fat and lazy.  I have eaten things that are bad for me, not thinking about the consequences.  I have sat in a chair with the phone in one hand and the netbook in the other.

Now here I sit, 70 pounds overweight, with two kidney stones, one of which could have killed me.  

Nice temple, eh?

Is this a good way to treat a temple of the Holy Spirit?  

Is this how a husband should conduct himself?

1 Corinthians 7:4 says "The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife." 

While I realize the context of this verse specifically addresses sex, I'm looking at a broader topic.  That is, by becoming a couch potato, overeating, and being generally lazy, I have given my bride a piece of junk instead of the best specimen I could give her.  After all, I do not have authority over my own body.  I should keep it in shape for it's proprietor.
  
In light of this, what's a fat man to do?

Repent.  
To repent mean to turn away from sin and make amends for the wrong you've done.  I sure have done wrong to this body of mine.  It's time to turn things around.  

" I tell you, no! But unless you repent, you too will all perish." (Luke 13:3)

Eat right and exercise.
"So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God." (1 Corinthians 10:31)

When I take a big handful of chips, or an extra cookie or piece of cake, am I glorifying God?  When there's a little coffee left in the pot and I empty it into my cup "because I don't want to waste it," Am I glorifying God?

No.  I need to change these habits fast or end up miserable.

Pray.
1 Thessalonians 5:17 tells us to "pray continually."  We are supposed to have an ongoing conversation with God all the time, like He's actually next to us. Because He is. 

So, when I feel like being lazy, I can ask the Lord to help me do my work.  When I'm tempted by the last doughnut, I can ask God to help me stay away from it.

Get support.
Back in 2006 I got into shape by using an online diet and exercise program.  It worked very well and I would have kept going if it weren't for a flood that destroyed almost everything we owned.  Even after the flood, I could and should have gotten back on the program, but I didn't.  Laziness overshadowed ambition and I sat in my chair drinking coffee and eating Twinkies (actually, I don't care for Twinkies, but you get the idea).

I need accountability.

 I need to do this for my Lord, for my bride, for my children, for myself.