"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;"
Eph 5:25

Tuesday, July 16, 2013


Weeds.  Every garden has them.  Every gardener dislikes them.

We have a tiny property with a few large flower beds.  However, as pretty as these flower beds are, they take up an enormous amount of time.  The work it takes to maintain these garden spots seems like it isn't worth the effort if we never get to stop and enjoy the flowers.

What to do???

First we have to get rid of the weeds.  Yank them out.  Kill them  Poison them.  We must do whatever is necessary to rid the garden of weeds.

Then, we must prevent the growth of further weeds.  This means mulch.  Lots of it.

But weeds aren't the only thing that grows out of control, is it?  We have a glorious patch of echinacea flowers that have overtaken the garden, choking out some other lovely plants with their towering stalks and daisy-shaped purple flowers.

Echinacea is a good plant.  We use it in tea and in tinctures as powerful antibiotic.  It's pretty to look at and adds a great splash of color to the front yard.

However, too much of a good thing is detrimental to the garden as a whole.  Unfortunately, this beautiful purple plant has to be destroyed in order for the garden to flourish.  Other plants are suffering because we have done nothing to stop the growth of our echinacea.

That's the way marriage is, also.  To have a productive marriage - one that continues to improve and grow in intimacy and beauty - we have to decide what to keep and what to throw away.  We have to kill the weeds, no matter how difficult the task is.

We also have to examine many seemingly good things and determine if too much of a good thing is slowly killing our marriage, just as the echinacea is killing the garden.  Maybe it's too much of a particular TV show (or too much television, period), or perhaps it's too much time spent on housework, or too much time taking care of the children.

Whatever it is, if it is taking away from time that should be spent with your spouse, it's in the wrong place.  Dig it up and either relocate it or throw it away.  

1 comment:

  1. It's so important to periodically take inventory of those kinds of "weeds" that are hurting our marriage, Thomas. I'm glad you've challenged us in this way. And I know that weeds are so much easier to grow than to kill, but those tender blooms we want to grow are so much harder to nurture. I think that's true of the things we want to grow in our marriages as well. But I'm persevering! I see the wonder God has grown in my marriage every day and it's worth all the effort! Thanks for linking this up, my friend!