"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;"
Eph 5:25

Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Dinner Is Served

I have always enjoyed cooking and shopping.  When I was very young my mother took me grocery shopping every Saturday with my grandmother.  Later on when my grandmother could no longer shop for herself, I was put in charge of Nana's groceries.  She taught me many things about buying and preparing food, and I learned to have fun with it. I continue to use her recipes to this day.

But I don't really want to discuss shopping and cooking.  Well, actually, I do ... kind of.

You see, my wife doesn't like to cook or shop, or plan and host parties, or do any food-related work whatsoever.  I mean she really doesn't like it.  I didn't realize how much of an aversion she had to the whole experience until several years into our marriage.  Don't get me wrong, it isn't usually a problem, because like I said, I have always enjoyed cooking and shopping.

However, there are those days when I come home from work and feel like collapsing into a heap on the bed, never to move until morning.  Tired as I am, dinner must still arrive on the table.  What happens on those days?

Those are the times I remember a few key verses.
(Proverbs 11:25)  Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered.
(1 Peter 3:7) Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
(Philippians 2:3-4) Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
When I keep these verses in the front of my mind I am able to pull my sorry self out of my chair, go to the store, make dinner, serve it, and even wash some dishes, if necessary. 

Why?

Because I have studied my bride and I know that it is much more difficult for her to make dinner than it is for someone who enjoys it, like me. Over time I have found great peace in sacrificing my own comfort to serve her in this way

How about you?  Do you look for little ways to serve your wife?  If not, try it.  You might just find a little peace.